Please, don't give me that face

My dear sister, it's so sadden and heartbreaking to see your pale and gloomy face because I used to see your shine and bright face, smiling to me. Won't you tell me, what had seized your smile and make you look so sick? What's had broken your heart, and what's had brought your tears this much? Tell me, share with me, you always know, am here for you. What does it mean when I am here, but I wasn't be useful even for listening? So here i am.

Subhanallah, I can't believe that he had done this to you, he gives you hopes, dreams, all sweets words, he makes you feel like you are the only girl he ever loves, he acts like he never will let you down, he behave so nicely in front of you, he never talk harsh to you, he said he will definitely married you one day, that you are the Queen of his life and you believe him full-heartedly, you dreaming about him everyday, how good he is, how charm he is, how polite he is, how wonderful it would be if you're married him and having a family! Perfect!

But now, he's turn away, so far from you, he left you with all your dreams, he's looking for other girl more beautiful than you, when you remind him about a dreams that you'd shared together, he's laughing at you and said "Thats your dreams not mine and you are just not my taste". To  hear that and to see him with another girl, you're so upset, you feel like it was the end of your life, you giving up all your dreams, you lost your appetite, you feel like there's nothing could interest you at all, you just sit at the corner of your room and weeping the whole day. 

Now, give your ears on this, my dear sister, don't forget that you have your lovely family, you have your parents, your buddies and your world! He left you not because you don't deserve him, but that means he don't deserve you, you are too precious for such kind of man. That's how Allah discarded that kind of person from your life, if not he might ruin your life. Why you are crying that much for such man? By that action, he proved that he is too flaky to do the husband work, he's not really good, he just pretend so and when he's getting boring, he's find another girl and you are crying for that man? 

Come on my babe, have you forgotten about your parents' love? How many years you knew him and how many years you live your life with your parents? You have live without him before, you are so happy with your family and buddies, but when he interrupted just for a while, it looks like you had given all your loves to him and there's no space for others in your heart anymore and now, when he left you, you've lost all your loves, your desires and passion. If you can live without him before, so will you now, you will get better and you'll find the peace within your heart!  Now, wipe off your tears, take a deep breath and say "Alhamdulillah, another bad person had left me", stand up and hold my hand, I'm gonna show you what's the best things you should do in this situation:

1. Make a pure intention in your heart: "Bismillah, I want to change, he has made a chaos in my heart once and I won't let him to do so to my life! I will definitely live my life better without him."

2. Delete everything related with him, physically and emotionally, replace it with your love to your family and buddies. Prove to him that you are much better without him and he doesn't give effect to your live. 

3. Give your attention on your family and friend relationship(Go for a trip if you are able to do so). Focus on what's you work on now(Study or career), explore and make it your priority.

4. Fill your days with various activities, make your life busy, cheers up with your buddies (Watch movie, playing game with sisters). Don't let your mind think about him, you have a lot of others thing to think about.

5. Listen and read to the motivational speech (Whoever you love to listen to). Get along with sisterhood and make friends.

6. Make your heart peace with a prayer to God oftentimes.Recite Quran which you had abandon before. If possible, make an extra prayer (Tahajjud), wake up in the middle of night and tell Him everything, ask Him anything, as He is the source of strength and hopes. 

7. Always remember, the only one that truly love you is God and your parents. They never leave you like what's your boyfriend did. So be loyal to them, never betray and love them full-heartedly. 

8. Think positively towards your life, never look back unless to teach others about a valuable life lesson. Everything happened for reasons and you'll reveal the reasons one day, inshaallah.  

9. Don't try to fall in madness love again before marriage, of course it's not wrong if you like somebody, but don't love him damn much until he has become your husband.(Don't make another boo-boo!)

10. Ask forgiveness from Allah, as you had neglected Him in your life before (that's why your life was messed up) and believe that Allah will definitely replace what'd you lost with a better husband, inshaallah!

That's it my dear, be happy, I can't wait to see your sweet smile, your silly jokes and your giggles echo again. Be happy that you are surrounded with loves from Allah, your family and buddies. One person left, but you have so much people around you, you just don't need him in your life! Allah will send you the right man, at the right time (The indicator is-if you get closer to Allah, it's a good sign but if it's otherwise, that's a bad sign!) Well, if you feel like the whole idea was bust, I don't know what else to say. Peace out! 

“Women are like apples on trees, the best ones are on the top of the tree. The men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and don't want to get hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground that aren't so good but easy. So, the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality they are amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top because they value quality.”

P/S: This post is a spontaneous response to so many stories I heard about brokenhearted sisters that make a wrong person as their world. May Allah forgives and guides us all. Well, Single ladies remember: U are not a side item, an appetizer, or an after-dinner dessert. U are the WHOLE MEAL or no deal !