Will You Marry Her?

Assalamualaykum all. 

When we talk about marriage, there's a lot of perception would be described. For some, they look at it in a positive way but also there's some that look at it in a negative way as they might heard or experienced something bad in marriage. Oh wait, when I write about marriage, some might think I'm not the right person to write about it as I'm not married yet. Well, this is not what I'm saying, this is from our prophet SAW, the article was released by one brother about the decision on marriage. Its written in a beautiful way so people that having a negative thinking about marriage might change their mind. Allahua'lam. Marriage is a sunnah and there is a huge blessed from Allah for those whose married for His sake.

Al Hafidh al Mizzi states in Tahdeeb al Kamaal: 11/194: 

Yahya ibn Yayha an Naysaboori said: 

I was with Sufyan ibn ‘Uyaynah when a man approached him and said: 

“O Abu Muhammad, I came to complain to you about my wife, I am the most lowly and disliked of things to her.” 

Sufyan remained silent for a while then said: “It may be that you were only interested in her to increase yourself in honor.” 

The man said: “Yes, O Abu Muhammad.” 

Sufyan said: “Whoever seeks honor [by marrying a woman] will be tested with lowliness, and whoever seeks wealth [by marrying a woman] will be tested with poverty, but whoever looks for righteousness [in a woman], then Allah would combine both honor and wealth with righteousness for him in her.” 

He then told him a story, he said: 

“We were four brothers; Muhammad, ‘Imran, Ibraheem and me. Muhammad was the oldest, ‘Imran was the youngest and I was in between. 

When Muhammad wanted to get married, he was interested in lineage, so he married a woman of better lineage than him, so Allah tested him with lowliness. 

‘Imran was interested in wealth, so he married a woman who was wealthier than him, so Allah tested him with poverty. They took his wealth and didn’t give him anything. 

So I pondered over their affair. Ma’mar ibn Rashid traveled to us so I spoke to him about the affair and told him of their story. He reminded me of the Ahadeeth that ‘A-isha and Yahya ibn Ja’dah narrated. 

As for Ja’dah’s Hadeeth; the Prophet - صلى الله عليه وسلم - said: 

“A woman is married for four reasons: righteousness, lineage, wealth and beauty. Marry the one with righteousness and you will be successful.” 

‘A-isha’s Hadeeth is as follows; the Prophet - صلى الله عليه وسلم – said: 

“The woman with the greatest blessing is the one with the least Mahr [dowry]” 

So I chose righteousness and a small dowry, following the Sunnah of the Messenger - صلى الله عليه وسلم – so Allah combined honor, wealth and righteousness for me [in my wife].”

Subhanallah, as I'm a girl, I reflected this hadith in other ways. Islam put the highest respect and honor to the righteous woman, who would definitely obey Allah and Rasul. For this obedience she would obey her husband, being loyal to him and take good care of him as she knew, that her Jannah is when her husband pleased her. She would always support and willing to serve her husband the best she could for Allah's sake. 


So sisters, if you feel like you are not beautiful or you are not rich and having not so-good lineage, remember, Allah gives you a special place if you're the righteous one. Never feel like there's no one would ever married you as you are not beautiful. Allah would send you the right person, who's didn't look at you beauty, lineage and wealth rather than your religion. If you are a righteous woman yet there's no man ask for you, remain to be a righteous one, because  you're not being pious to make man married to you and believe that Allah has a better plan for you. 

"Vile women are for vile men, and vile men for vile women. Good women are for good men, and good men for good women; such are innocent of that which people say: For them is pardon and a bountiful provision." (Annur:26)

Are you hesitate of whats Allah'd promised you? That, good woman is for a good man and I firmly believe if we're not being unite with our partners in dunya, we'll be unite in akhirah, in Jannah and lemme as you, whats better than Mr Jannah? So sisters, preserve your dignity, remain your modesty and keep shining like a stars thats glitter on a dark sky. May Allah SWT grant us pious companions for this journey and the hereafter ameen.