2 in 1

Bismillah..

Wah tajuk skema tak hengat, hehe. So, semenjak menceburkan diri dalam bidang rumahtangga ini, banyak perkara yang I belajar, bila banyak belajar, otak pun banyak berfikir (Apa kaitan dengan tajuk? -____-). Actually tak tahu nak cakap tulis macam mana pengalaman setahun sebulan jagung menempuh alam rumahtangga, but it rocks, REALLY. Belajar memikul tanggungjawab dengan benar sebagai seorang isteri dan ibu, memikirkan mereka dahulu sebelum diri sendiri dan mengurus rumah takde tangga make me become more matured (for real?!). Then,dah mula pandai buat budget untuk keperluan rumah and di sini lah timbulnya idea yang berbunyi seperti tajuk di atas, ngeh3(finally masuk point juga, phew susah juga nak buat intro ni!). Soalan ni actually sangatlah normal dan tidak asing bagi pasangan yang dah bernikah kerana ekonomi rumahtangga (Tetibe teringat subjek Kem.Hidup -__-) penting dalam menjamin kemandirian spesis di dalam rumah. Di antara idea-idea yang berlambak di pasaran, I like this idea the most: We change disposable thing to reusable thing. Selain jimat, ia juga sangat mesra alam, nak bagi lagi nampak mesra alam I highlight color hijau gitu, go go green!. Ok, so what is the thing? Jeng3....

Disposable diapers (RM30 per pack contain 60 diapers) change to Cloth diapers (RM35 each)

Disposable menstrual Pad (RM5 contain 10 pads) change to cloth pad (RM15 each)

WHat?! Are you serious? It's not gonna reduce the cost, it will increase the cost man! Well, NO not in a long term. Katakanlah harga sebungkus disposable diapers yang korang beli tiap bulan tu adalah RM30, let say you are using 5 diapers a day, you will need to buy at least 3 packs of disposable diapers (Contain 60 diapers in each pack). So, you will spend about RM90 per month right? Let's do some maths here:

 RM90/month X 12months=RM1080

For 3 years you will spend RM3240 for disposable diapers

ok, now if you go for cloth diaper and assuming you purchase 10 cloth diaper in 1st year and each one is about RM35.

RM35 X 10= RM350 (You are saving RM 730!)

Ahaaaa and if you let say buy another 10 cloth diapers with price RM25, 

RM25 X 10= RM250

So, RM250+RM350= RM600 (You are still saving RM480!)

Then the next year you buy another 5 cloth diapers with price RM35 = RM175

 For 3 years you are spending  about RM775 for cloth diapers

Disposable diapers RM3240

Cloth diapers RM775

You are saving about RM2465!

and YES this cloth diaper can be use in a long term until your child no longer need the diapers(Dah pandai pergi toilet unt poo and pee) dan boleh diwariskan kepada adik-adik yang seterusnya,hohoho. RM2465 is a small amount? Terfikir tak apa anda boleh buat dengan duit ini? Meh nak bagi cadangan. Assume you do investment  in Amanah Saham or Unit Trust and average you manage to get a long term investment return rate of 8%, when you children's 20th birthday, you prepared at about RM14, 000 as his/her birthday (Boleh buat bayar yuran universiti kottt). Should this money go to the disposable diaper company or your children ?

You are the one who make the decision :)

Now for cloth pad and disposable pad. As for disposable pad, you gonna need at least 3packs in a month. 

so, RM5 X 3= RM15

RM15 X 12months=RM180

Cloth pad, RM15 X 10 = RM150

Ok, seems not a big different there isn't it? But hey, cloth pad can be use even in the next year and it is environmental friendly :)

Why I mention that both are environmental friendly? Makhuk kecil cute and menggunakan lebih kurang 7000 lampin pakai buang dalam masa 3 tahun tapi cloth diaper just maybe 80 keping. Disposable diapers is used for 2 hours tapi cloth diapers is used for 3 years, boleh anda yang bijaksana sini bayangkan ke mana agaknya beribu raban pampers tu pergi? Tidakkah ia akan kembali kepada alam sekitar? Same case as disposable menstrual pad, you will use 1000 pads in 3 years, but only 50 cloth pads and where it gonna end up to? YES environment. Cotton is the Most Natural material for you and your baby¹s skin and oh with no CHEMICAL at all. There is no need for gels or chemicals. Jangan risau if bocor or what so ever, dengan kebijaksanaan kurniaan Allah kepada makhluk manusia, lampin kain dah adavance sekarang, ada macam-macam corak dan satu diapers both fit dengan banyak saiz sebab ada butang laras. Jangan korang bayang macam lampin kain dolu-dolu tu, kena letak pin bagai, NO. I have started using both, but still dalam proses mengembang biakkan supaya lebih banyak umat cloth diapers and cloth pad ni di planet rumah I, hohoho. I selang selikan, sehari cloth diaper next day is disposable diaper for the beginning. Actually, cloth diapers ni ada jual kat banyak pasaraya but I am not sure about the quality.

Cloth diapers

Inilah yang dinamakan 2 in 1,  berjimat dan mesra alam, heheh. Selain itu, untuk kurangkan belanja dapur pula, rancanglah resepi anda untuk 3 hari then baru pergi pasar beli apa yang patut. Jangan beli sakan semua then tak terpakai pun, busuk je dan terbuang, kan ke membazir duit dan makanan namanya? Dan siapa yang suka membazir kawan siapa??? Hohoho tepuk dada tanya iman :) 

Inshaallah jumpa lagi, terima kasih sudi baca ^^

Sindrom sayang anak

Assalamualaykum..

Sindrom sayang anak? Sindrom ini biasanya akan menyerang umat manusia yang baharu bergelar ibu dan bapa, hohoho. Well, actually that is not my main point here. The title is actually combination of "Sayang anak timang-timangkan" dan "Shaken Baby Syndrome". So I combine jadi la Sindrom sayang anak., bijak kan? Jimat pun jimat, jimat space dan tenaga (APAKAH???). Ok back top the topic, Shaken Baby Syndrome atau nama glam nya SBS. As a new parents, especially at the very early days, the sounds of our baby's crying will freak us out, REALLY. Terutama baby yang vokal tinggi like my daughter, time dia tarik vokal semua orang memandang, jiran di tingkat bawah sekali pun boleh dengar, kucing terpinga-pinga memandang ke sana sini. Disebabkan itu, cepat-cepat je nak bagi dia tenang sampai kadang-kadang tergoncang bayi yang suci tak bersalah itu, when I recall those days I really regret it and I will cepat-cepat minta maaf kat my baby and kiss her bertubi-tubi tanda menyesal sebab kurang sabar masa tu. Bila jumpa artikel berkenaan SBS ni, rasa bersalah tu makin membuak-buak tak dapat bendung, huhu. Forgive me my Lord, forgive me my child, for being impatient  :(

So what is SBS actually?

Shaken baby syndrome is a severe form of child abuse caused by violently shaking an infant or child. Shaken baby syndrome can occur from as little as 5 seconds of shaking. Shaken baby injuries usually occur in children younger than 2 years old but may be seen in children up to the age of 5. When an infant or toddler is shaken, the brain bounces back and forth against the skull. This can cause bruising of the brain (cerebral contusion), swelling, pressure, and bleeding in the brain. The large veins along the outside of the brain may tear, leading to further bleeding, swelling, and increased pressure. This can easily cause permanent brain damage or death. Shaking an infant or small child may cause other injuries, such as damage to the neck, spine, and eyes.

Artikel daripada seorang doktor:

"SBS merupakan kecederaan otak bayi disebabkan goncangan atau pergerakan kepala yang kuat. Boleh berlaku dalam tempoh sesingkat 5 saat pergerakan yang kuat. Kecederaan yang serius boleh menyebabkan kecacatan otak yang lama, serius dan kekal pada bayi. Ianya berlaku apabila kepala bayi digoncang atau dihentak dengan objek walaupun objek lembut seperti bantal. Ada teori mengaitkan dengan pergerakan seperti menimang bayi, menaiki buaian serta memegang bayi ketika seseorang sedang marah atau bergaduh boleh menyebab berlakunya SBS. Sebab lain ialah penderaan bayi (child abuse) dan selalunya mempunyai kesan-kesan penderaan yang lain.

Perkara ini berlaku kerana kepala bayi mempunyai nisbah yang lebih besar berbanding badan mereka, leher yang lemah dan struktur otak yang masih belum matang serta lebih kandungan air berbanding orang dewasa.

Amalan menimang atau menggoncang sering dilakukan oleh penjaga terutama bila bayi tidak mahu berhenti menangis. Ada yang menimang bayi kerana untuk menenangkan bayi dan ada juga melakukannya ketika marah atau penat menjaga bayi.

Ini bukanlah kes SBS pertama yang saya rawat. Sebelum ini saya juga pernah merawat seorang bayi di wad kanak-kanak yang mempunyai kecederaan otak yang serius dikhuatiri berpunca daripada menaiki buaian

Maka, saya sangat berharap agar ibu bapa dan penjaga semua dapat mengambil serius dan peka tentang Baby Shaken Syndrome ini. Ianya bukanlah kes terpencil malah di Amerika Syarikat sebanyak 1500 kes dilaporkan setiap tahun. Mereka juga telah mengharamkan sebarang bentuk alat menggoncang bayi seperti buaian.."

So what is the PREVENTION of this syndrome?

  

>Do not shake your baby when you are angry or to play. 

>Do not hold your baby when you are angry. 

>If you can not calm your baby, leave your baby for a while in the crib or to others. 

>Ask for help from others.

>Cradle should be our last choice to make our baby sleep (Crying T_T)

Yang prevention last sekali tu agak sukar sekali coz my baby tidur siang dalam buai but not all the time :'( . I will try my best to minimize using the cradle, inshaallah. You all boleh tengok secara 3D tanpa perlu pakai cermin mata 3D, macam mana gejala SBS ni berlaku dalam badan bayi kita di youtube. Ngeri siot, sumpah tak goncang dah my baby even dia menangis on top of her lungs! Taubat!

When you've become a parent

Bismillah..Assalamualaykum..Hey, I'm back! :D

I'm having a long holiday huh?! Well, yes and I enjoy it, trust me :)

So what happened in back 2 months? Ahhaaa jeng3 *Drum rolls*

Taraaaaa....

Assalamualaykum..my name is Maryam al-haura' :)

Yes, my baby! :)

Alhamdulillah everything went well with His perfect plan, I couldn't say more. My baby is healthy and perfect, alhamdulillah. All experience I gained along the journey, all the struggles and pains, I believe will benefits me much not only in dunya but also in akhirah. So at the moment my mother left my home, the journey of parenting started. It is true that it is never easy to be a parent, the first time baby Haura' cried on top of her lungs, freak my hubby and me out. Phewww of course she stopped cried when she was tired and then fell asleep like nothing ever happened! Oh my Lord, really it was a priceless moment! And we laugh whenever we recall that moment, lol.The first time when it was only me and baby Haura' after my hubby left to his workplace, I remind myself to be positive, she's only a baby, her only way to communicate is crying so it is normal and I have to be calm, don't panic dude!

Now she's almost 2 months, she's getting smarter (She can stays put and watches we while I am praying beside her even when I pray with my hubby, she starts babbling, smile and laugh a bit) and with all my heart I would say, she's the most cute creature on earth, mashaallah, well at least on my sight ;). Well there's a lot of interesting thing change once you have a baby:

♥ You don't need a daily schedule anymore because your baby will fix your daily schedule. Well, it is depend on her to start the day in any time even at 3 am in the morning! As for me, I will automatically awake in every 2 hours to feed her.

♥ You will respect and love your own parents in a brand new way especially your mother after you have went through what she had. 

♥ If  the baby is sick, you will feel more severe than if you are sick. 

♥ You will appreciate ourselves, yes because you are now a parent to a child.

♥ You become more sensitive on whatever issues related with a baby like when you saw a news on child abuse, you can even cry :'(

♥ You will no longer feel disgust with our baby poo poo otherwise we are so happy! lol

♥ You will feel like an angel whenever you can make the baby stop crying

♥ You will always count your baby's new teeth 

♥ You will no longer eager to snap your picture, you will instead taking your baby's picture daily! This is also applies to your photos uploading activity where you will upload your baby's picture more than yours in fb :P 

♥ You would think that having more children is not a huge problem. 

♥ When you see there are other parents who were holding their baby that was crying, you will understand their situation. 

♥ You will cherish your bath time even it is in a short period!

♥ Finally, you start to say 'hello' to the neighbor after having a baby! 

♥ You will find out, the things that once you consider important are no longer important after you have a child. 

♥ You are aware that it is not difficult to love your children who at first you thought he was a stranger. 

♥ Every day is full of surprises!

Interesting isn't it? :D

I believe she will grows smarter and prettier than me (Of course, I'm getting old, no?) and most important is she becomes a piety servant of Allah like Maryam Ali Imran, amin. I aware that me first have to be a piety servant of Allah, inshaallah. Yes, it is a long journey but with Allah's helps inshaallah we can make it, plus both side cooperation of husband and wife. Alhamdulillah for He gave me a very supportive and cooperative plus handsome (enhem) husband. Baby Haura' is indeed the most precious gift for our first anniversary awww :)

Alhamdulillah for everything, thank you for all du'a from whoever I ever met or even never meet. Please keep me in your du'a :)

With  ♥

Zahra

Momma,why we can't see the God?

I tried to find Him on the Christian cross,
but He was not there;

I went to the temple of the Hindus and to the old pagodas,
but I could not find a trace of Him anywhere…

I searced on the mountains and in the valleys
but neither in the heights nor in the depthswas I able to find Him.

I went to the Ka’bah in Mecca,
but He was not there either…

I questioned the scholars and philosophers
but He was beyond their understanding…

Then I looked into my heart and it was there
where He dwelled that I saw Him,
He was nowhere else to be found…

Jalaluddin Rumi

Epic Momma!

A little boy came up to his mother in the kitchen one evening while she was fixing supper, and handed her a piece of paper that he had been writing on. After his Mom dried her hands on an apron, she read it, and this is what it said:


For cutting the grass: $5.00 

For cleaning up my room this week: $1.00 

For going to the store for you: $.50 

Baby-sitting my kid brother while you went shopping: $.25 

Taking out the garbage: $1.00 

For getting a good report card: $5.00 

For cleaning up and raking the yard: $2.00 

Total owed: $14.75


Well, his mother looked at him standing there, and the boy could see the memories flashing through her mind. She picked up the pen, turned over the paper he'd written on, and this is what she wrote:


For the nine months I carried you while you were growing inside me:
No Charge 

For all the nights that I've sat up with you, doctored and prayed for you:
No Charge 

For all the trying times, and all the tears that you've caused through the years:
No Charge 

For all the nights that were filled with dread, and for the worries I knew were ahead:
No Charge 

For the toys, food, clothes, and even wiping your nose:
No Charge 

Son, when you add it up, the cost of my love is:
No Charge.


When the boy finished reading what his mother had written, there were big tears in his eyes, and he looked straight at his mother and said, "Mom, I sure do love you." And then he took the pen and in great big letters he wrote: "PAID IN FULL".


"The Prophet Muhammad said, may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him: Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother (Ahmad, Nasai)."


"On the station platform of life, my mum is the dream vending machine that dispenses crisps and sweets and other nice things for free. "


P/S:My mom is so cool that she has in-built wireless functionality! The coverage is so wide,it could reach wherever I am, she will feel and know if something happened. Mom you are an epic! Thanks Allah for my umi :)