Will You Marry Her?

Assalamualaykum all. 

When we talk about marriage, there's a lot of perception would be described. For some, they look at it in a positive way but also there's some that look at it in a negative way as they might heard or experienced something bad in marriage. Oh wait, when I write about marriage, some might think I'm not the right person to write about it as I'm not married yet. Well, this is not what I'm saying, this is from our prophet SAW, the article was released by one brother about the decision on marriage. Its written in a beautiful way so people that having a negative thinking about marriage might change their mind. Allahua'lam. Marriage is a sunnah and there is a huge blessed from Allah for those whose married for His sake.

Al Hafidh al Mizzi states in Tahdeeb al Kamaal: 11/194: 

Yahya ibn Yayha an Naysaboori said: 

I was with Sufyan ibn ‘Uyaynah when a man approached him and said: 

“O Abu Muhammad, I came to complain to you about my wife, I am the most lowly and disliked of things to her.” 

Sufyan remained silent for a while then said: “It may be that you were only interested in her to increase yourself in honor.” 

The man said: “Yes, O Abu Muhammad.” 

Sufyan said: “Whoever seeks honor [by marrying a woman] will be tested with lowliness, and whoever seeks wealth [by marrying a woman] will be tested with poverty, but whoever looks for righteousness [in a woman], then Allah would combine both honor and wealth with righteousness for him in her.” 

He then told him a story, he said: 

“We were four brothers; Muhammad, ‘Imran, Ibraheem and me. Muhammad was the oldest, ‘Imran was the youngest and I was in between. 

When Muhammad wanted to get married, he was interested in lineage, so he married a woman of better lineage than him, so Allah tested him with lowliness. 

‘Imran was interested in wealth, so he married a woman who was wealthier than him, so Allah tested him with poverty. They took his wealth and didn’t give him anything. 

So I pondered over their affair. Ma’mar ibn Rashid traveled to us so I spoke to him about the affair and told him of their story. He reminded me of the Ahadeeth that ‘A-isha and Yahya ibn Ja’dah narrated. 

As for Ja’dah’s Hadeeth; the Prophet - صلى الله عليه وسلم - said: 

“A woman is married for four reasons: righteousness, lineage, wealth and beauty. Marry the one with righteousness and you will be successful.” 

‘A-isha’s Hadeeth is as follows; the Prophet - صلى الله عليه وسلم – said: 

“The woman with the greatest blessing is the one with the least Mahr [dowry]” 

So I chose righteousness and a small dowry, following the Sunnah of the Messenger - صلى الله عليه وسلم – so Allah combined honor, wealth and righteousness for me [in my wife].”

Subhanallah, as I'm a girl, I reflected this hadith in other ways. Islam put the highest respect and honor to the righteous woman, who would definitely obey Allah and Rasul. For this obedience she would obey her husband, being loyal to him and take good care of him as she knew, that her Jannah is when her husband pleased her. She would always support and willing to serve her husband the best she could for Allah's sake. 


So sisters, if you feel like you are not beautiful or you are not rich and having not so-good lineage, remember, Allah gives you a special place if you're the righteous one. Never feel like there's no one would ever married you as you are not beautiful. Allah would send you the right person, who's didn't look at you beauty, lineage and wealth rather than your religion. If you are a righteous woman yet there's no man ask for you, remain to be a righteous one, because  you're not being pious to make man married to you and believe that Allah has a better plan for you. 

"Vile women are for vile men, and vile men for vile women. Good women are for good men, and good men for good women; such are innocent of that which people say: For them is pardon and a bountiful provision." (Annur:26)

Are you hesitate of whats Allah'd promised you? That, good woman is for a good man and I firmly believe if we're not being unite with our partners in dunya, we'll be unite in akhirah, in Jannah and lemme as you, whats better than Mr Jannah? So sisters, preserve your dignity, remain your modesty and keep shining like a stars thats glitter on a dark sky. May Allah SWT grant us pious companions for this journey and the hereafter ameen. 

When You Missed Someone

Assalamualaykum all,

Good evening, hows your life went? Hope everything is good. I'm in library right now, trying to do something for my assignment. While I'm busy hitting my lappy's keyboards, suddenly my cell phone vibrating, sounded that there was a message just entered my inbox. I quickly checked it and I found that was Ummi, my beloved mother who'd message me.

"My darling, what are you doing?"
"I'm in library Ummi, how about ya?"
"I just thinking of you, until my tears rolling down my cheeks."

Right after I read it, my eyes getting wet. I missed her too, so much! subhanallah. Just like she knew that I'm a bit tensed here with my study, seemed she could felt it as well! Ummi, momma, mother or any other name you would called them, they're really a great person in our world. They delivered us to this lovely world, took good care of us and sacrificed a lot for us. No words could described how much they'd love us. Thats why, mother have a very special place in Islam, it stated in quran and mentioned in hadith as well.

"And revere the wombs that bore you, for God is ever watchful over you." (4:1)

It should be obvious that our parents deserve our utmost respect and devotion - second only to God. Speaking in the Quran, God says:

"Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is thy final Goal." (31:14)

A man once consulted the Prophet Muhammad about taking part in a military campaign. The Prophet asked the man if his mother was still living. When told that she was alive, the Prophet said: "(Then) stay with her, for Paradise is at her feet." (Al-Tirmidhi)

On another occasion, the Prophet said: "God has forbidden for you to be undutiful to your mothers." (Sahih Al-Bukhari)

A man once asked the Prophet to whom he should show the most kindness. The Prophet replied: "Your mother, next your mother, next your mother, and then your father." (Sunan of Abu-Dawood)

In other words, we must treat our mothers in a manner befitting their exalted position - and, again, revere the wombs that bore us.Subhanallah, have you ever ponder, how much have you did for your mother and father? How many times have you expressed your love to them? Have you ever once make they happy and proud of you? 

From now on, being nice to them, obey them as long as they obeyed Allah before its too late. I remind myself and anyone that wanted to be reminded. Allahualam

"When I came home in the rain,
Brother asked, why you didn't take an umbrella,
Sister advices, why didn't you wait until rain stopped,
Father angrily warmed, only after getting cold you will realized
But mother, while drying my face and my hair says "Stupid rain, couldn't it wait, till my child come home"

These are mothers

You said its a small deed

Assalamualaykum  all, Jumu'ah Mubarak! Blessed  essence is spreading as today is a great  day for muslims.  Prophet  SAW has gives us a great example on every matters. From the small stuff like how we enter the washroom to the huge matters like jihad fisabilillah. Sometimes when we think it is not important and just a small deed we tend to ignore it  and do not practice it. I'm gonna share with you on how Prophet SAW cuts his  nails. It is sunnah to follow  whats Rasulullah SAW practiced in his daily life.

"We have indeed, in the Messenger of Allah, a good example (of conduct) for anyone whose hope is in Allah and the Final Day." [Holy Qur'an 33: ayat 21]

Its  a  small deed you said but yet  you do not practice it. So today is your  stepping stone to start practice it, inshaallah. Have  a great day! :)

When Your Dream Is Not 'In Season'

Assalamualaykum All,

Alhamdulillah it such a serene and beautiful  morning. Yes it so early  in the morning  when I post this  note while I'm trying to finish my air modeling!  I just can't stop my fingers to type something that I eagerly wanna share with all of you. Its about a dreams, something that we couldn't escape as a human being. We live  a life and grew up with a  lot  of dreams, as we getting elder, our dreams developed to suit our age. But sometimes its seemed didn't work,  its so  hard to achieve  with such a tired and long journey, then we started to give up  and felt unhappy.The truth is our dream  is just not 'In Season'. This  is a simple story about a dream from my  sister in Islam, that we could ponder on for a seconds:

One time, I was in my backyard talking to a man who was helping me with my landscaping. It was the middle of winter and the grass was very brown. It looked as if it was totally dead. I commented to the man about how bad the grass looked and how dead it was. He said, "Well, Feriel, it doesn't look very good now but the truth is the grass is not dead, it's just not in season. In the springtime, this same grass will be just as lush and green as it can be." Sure enough, just a few months later that same brown, dry grass was a gorgeous bright green, filled with life and vitality.

I've found that life works the same way. Sometimes our circumstances look dead. It may look like a dream is dead, a relationship is dead, or a promise is dead. But you have to realize it may just be that it's not in season. It may be that it'll come back around in a new season. We can't give up just because things don't look the way we want them to in the season we are in. We have to dig our heels in and look with our eyes of faith to the new season that is on the horizon.

What am I saying? Just because something looks dead, don't write it off. Our Allah is a God of new beginnings. When we go through disappointments or setbacks, instead of getting down and discouraged or giving up, choose to have the attitude, "Even though it doesn't look good, I know the truth. It's not really dead; it's just not in season. I'm in springtime, but I know summertime is coming. So I'm going to lift up my head and get ready for the new things Allah is about to do." Friend, if you'll keep that attitude of faith you will receive strength to make it through to the next season and it won't be long until those dreams and desires will flourish in every area of your life! 

Keep dreaming friends!

 Trust in Allah, He knows whats best for us, when the dream is not whats best for us then why we should cry to lost it?  Thanks my dear sister, You give me some refreshment and reminder. May Allah bless you and all  of  us. Have a great day ahead and don't stop dreaming friend! :)

وَلِلّهِ غَيْبُ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالأَرْضِ وَإِلَيْهِ يُرْجَعُ الأَمْرُ كُلُّهُ فَاعْبُدْهُ وَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَيْهِ وَمَا رَبُّكَ بِغَافِلٍ عَمَّا تَعْمَلُونَ

All that is hidden in the heavens and the earth lies within the power of Allah. To Him are all matters referred for judgment. So do serve Him, and place in Him all your trust. Your Lord is not heedless of what you do.  (11:123)

P/S: I think I need to talk to You  now my  Lord. Please gimme a strength  coz I know You would never lemme down. I put my trust on You..

Don't sweat the small stuff

Assalamualaykum all, its been  a while I haven't update my blog, I've been busy with campus stuff and all students routine or should I said, this is just an excuse? Honestly, I was tensed with all the tasks, sometimes I felt  i can't stand anymore, i can't complete my tasks, it so difficult! What a silly though I ever had. ROFL. This is all dunya stuffs, small stuff babe! 

Yesterday, I went to book store with my best ever friend just to forget for a while about our study, get off from the giant fridge and seeking for a best book. After half an hour, in Xcess book store and  have a scanned read at some books, my eyes still glared at one small book, wrapped with yellow paper.  "Easier Than You Think", the title really attracted me as I'm really in a hard situation (Thats just what I though!!!). 

Don't sweat  the small stuff!  I keep repeated this  as I'm reading this book written by  Richard  Carlson. Just do it, give your best shoot! Tawaqal and make du'a. Thats what I should do, give my best on whats in my hand now. Don't keep worrying about anything that not yet happen, keep away the negative though and keep the good spirit up. We are the one that make a choice. I would like to share a story taken from this book, about the choices that we made and how it influence our daily life:

I woke up early today, excited about all I get to do before the clock strikes the midnight. I have responsibilities to fulfill today. my job is to choose what kind of day i'm going to have. I can complain because the weather is rainy or I can be thankful that the grass is getting watered for free.

today, I can feel sad that I dont have more money, or be glad taht my finances encourage me to plan my purchases wisely  and o guide me away from waste. Today I ca grumble about my health, or I can rejoice that I am alive. Today I can lament over all my parents didn't giveme when I was a child, or I can be grateful that they allowed me to born.

Today I can cry because roses have thorns, or I can celebrate that thorns have roses. Today, I can whinde because I have a job, or I can shout for joy because I have a job  to do! Today I can complain because I have to go to school, or I can eagerly open my mind and fill it with new tidbits of knowledge. 

Today I can murmur dejectedly because I have to do housework, or I can feel honored because the Lord has  provided shelter for my mind and soul. Today stretches ahead of me waiting to be shaped and here I'am the sculptor who gets to do the shaping. Whats today will be like is up to me. I get to choose what kind of day I will have. 

So have a great day-umless u have other plans.

So, why choose the path of complaint over the path of gratitude? Being grateful or being overextended~ Dont sweat the small stuff, please!! 

 

"And this life of the world is only amusement and play! Verily, the home of the Hereafter, that is the life indeed (i.e. the eternal life that will never end), if they knew"

(Al-Ankabut:64)