So dude! Do you feel relief, that more women than men in hell?

Yeah it is absolutely true, that the facebook has makes our world become much 'smaller', don't you think so? Ok, now close your eyes and imagine, you are far away from your friends, yet you know, what's she/he's up to, maybe their activities just by go to their page or perhaps greet them on chat box and start a cozy conversation with them. Also you will know what's they did on facebook, like playing a game, or preaching on religion, commenting on photos and even their relationship status (Opsss). 

So who am I, not to bump on my friend's recent post(error:unsuitable words used,lol)? I was so happy to read on one of my schoolmate's page when she mentions her willingness to change and starts adopting Islam in her life, I mean in a serious way, she wants to practice deen, I know, I did nothing or contribute anything for that but really I am happy. She posted the hadith about women's aurah, then as usual people starts commenting on the post, I read the following comments and one guy stated that Prophet Muhammad SAW had given a statistic of women and men in hell, so the ration is 10 women:1men in hell and  2 women :1 men in heaven. I was shocked to read about the ratio, because I never heard about it before, yes I've heard one hadith about women in hell-fire:  

Narrated Ibn ‘Abbas: The Prophet said: “I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful.” It was asked, “Do they disbelieve in Allah?” (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, “They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, ‘I have never received any good from you.” Sahih Bukhari, Volume 1, Book 2, Number 28.

*The hadith did not stop at were women! but were women who were ungrateful. It does make different, isn't it?

We know that we can't simply approach the hadith without some understanding of its context. There is a thorough field of studies called Hadith Studies and  scholars, past and present, have devoted their entire lives to memorizing, understanding, classifying, authenticating, tracing, and commenting on the thousands of traditions associated with the Prophet, Muhammad SAW. Ordinary people like us have no business taking one hadith and running to the races with it. If we’re confused about a hadith, then we should go to an expert and ask him/her what it means. So I asked one ustadh about this ratio(Also in fb, oh thanks Allah) , is there any hadith on this, because I knew he's studying and preaching to many places on hadith. 

Guess what was the answer? 

Dundururumdum *Drum roll*. 

He gives a very simple and clear answer:

1. I myself not sure where the ration come from 

2. There is a hadith about majority of women were in hell-fire because of their bad-doings but this also applies for men. So there's no exception, if you did not obey whether you are a women or men, you'll be punished by hell-fire 

3. Women is always more than men in term of quantity since before until now, based on the statistic. 

So the certain thing is, someone will be thrown into hell-fire because of their sins and not their gender. 

It's as clear as crystal! and hey this is one hadith in THOUSANDS. Look how many hadith that speak positively of women and remind men to honor women especially the ones that deal with motherhood. Take a peek on this hadith: 

Narrated Abu Huraira:

A man came to Allah’s Apostle and said, “O Allah’s Apostle! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by me?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man said. “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man further said, “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man asked for the fourth time, “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your father. “

[Bukhari, Volume 8, Book 73, Number 2]

and there are other hadith that indicate a plentitude of women in Paradise. For example:

Muhammad reported that some (persons) stated with a sense of pride and some discussed whether there would be more men in Paradise or more women. It was upon this that Abu Huraira reported that Abu’l Qasim (the Holy Prophet) (may peace be upon him) said: The (members) of the first group to get into Paradise would have their faces as bright as full moon during the night, and the next to this group would have their faces as bright as the shining stars in the sky, and every person would have two wives and the marrow of their shanks would glimmer beneath the flesh and there would be none without a wife in Paradise.

[Muslim, Book 040, Number 6793]

Seems like this was a topic of debate even in the early days of Islam and the scholars frequently explain that hadiths like these can apply to both gender. Of course, there are also ungrateful husbands and of course many women have suffered at their husbands’ hands. However, this hadith is addressing specific situations where women are in the wrong.  So you may say that based on the first hadith i mentioned above, women was surpressed because they can't complain on their husbands?

Well, women certainly have the right to voice their grievances. Isn’t there an entire chapter of the Qur’an called al-Mujadilah(click to check)? This surah is the 58th chapter in the Qur’an and it is devoted to the story of a woman who came to the Prophet Muhammad SAW and complained about her husband. The Prophet did not tell this woman that she was going to Hell. Instead, he listened to her, and Allah Most High revealed verses directly addressing this woman’s situation and condemning the husband for his unacceptable behavior. 

Also bear in mind, that The Qur'an gives women spiritual parity with men in terms of their status before Allah, their religious obligations, and the recompense of their deeds. The pleasures of paradise, including pure and righteous companions, are not exclusively for men. Allah says in Surat al-Baqarah verse 25, 

"But give glad tidings to those who believe and work righteousness, that their portion is Gardens, beneath which rivers flow. Every time they are fed with fruits there-from, they say: "Why, this is what we were fed with before," for they are given things in similitude; and they have therein companions pure (and holy); and they abide therein (for ever)." 

So dude, dont shout it loud arrogantly that women will be more than men in hell-fire or dare to yell at your wife "obey or HELL" when you yourself, did not set your foot on Masjid except on Friday! 

May Allah guides us all.

Peace out, have a nice day :)