2 in 1

Bismillah..

Wah tajuk skema tak hengat, hehe. So, semenjak menceburkan diri dalam bidang rumahtangga ini, banyak perkara yang I belajar, bila banyak belajar, otak pun banyak berfikir (Apa kaitan dengan tajuk? -____-). Actually tak tahu nak cakap tulis macam mana pengalaman setahun sebulan jagung menempuh alam rumahtangga, but it rocks, REALLY. Belajar memikul tanggungjawab dengan benar sebagai seorang isteri dan ibu, memikirkan mereka dahulu sebelum diri sendiri dan mengurus rumah takde tangga make me become more matured (for real?!). Then,dah mula pandai buat budget untuk keperluan rumah and di sini lah timbulnya idea yang berbunyi seperti tajuk di atas, ngeh3(finally masuk point juga, phew susah juga nak buat intro ni!). Soalan ni actually sangatlah normal dan tidak asing bagi pasangan yang dah bernikah kerana ekonomi rumahtangga (Tetibe teringat subjek Kem.Hidup -__-) penting dalam menjamin kemandirian spesis di dalam rumah. Di antara idea-idea yang berlambak di pasaran, I like this idea the most: We change disposable thing to reusable thing. Selain jimat, ia juga sangat mesra alam, nak bagi lagi nampak mesra alam I highlight color hijau gitu, go go green!. Ok, so what is the thing? Jeng3....

Disposable diapers (RM30 per pack contain 60 diapers) change to Cloth diapers (RM35 each)

Disposable menstrual Pad (RM5 contain 10 pads) change to cloth pad (RM15 each)

WHat?! Are you serious? It's not gonna reduce the cost, it will increase the cost man! Well, NO not in a long term. Katakanlah harga sebungkus disposable diapers yang korang beli tiap bulan tu adalah RM30, let say you are using 5 diapers a day, you will need to buy at least 3 packs of disposable diapers (Contain 60 diapers in each pack). So, you will spend about RM90 per month right? Let's do some maths here:

 RM90/month X 12months=RM1080

For 3 years you will spend RM3240 for disposable diapers

ok, now if you go for cloth diaper and assuming you purchase 10 cloth diaper in 1st year and each one is about RM35.

RM35 X 10= RM350 (You are saving RM 730!)

Ahaaaa and if you let say buy another 10 cloth diapers with price RM25, 

RM25 X 10= RM250

So, RM250+RM350= RM600 (You are still saving RM480!)

Then the next year you buy another 5 cloth diapers with price RM35 = RM175

 For 3 years you are spending  about RM775 for cloth diapers

Disposable diapers RM3240

Cloth diapers RM775

You are saving about RM2465!

and YES this cloth diaper can be use in a long term until your child no longer need the diapers(Dah pandai pergi toilet unt poo and pee) dan boleh diwariskan kepada adik-adik yang seterusnya,hohoho. RM2465 is a small amount? Terfikir tak apa anda boleh buat dengan duit ini? Meh nak bagi cadangan. Assume you do investment  in Amanah Saham or Unit Trust and average you manage to get a long term investment return rate of 8%, when you children's 20th birthday, you prepared at about RM14, 000 as his/her birthday (Boleh buat bayar yuran universiti kottt). Should this money go to the disposable diaper company or your children ?

You are the one who make the decision :)

Now for cloth pad and disposable pad. As for disposable pad, you gonna need at least 3packs in a month. 

so, RM5 X 3= RM15

RM15 X 12months=RM180

Cloth pad, RM15 X 10 = RM150

Ok, seems not a big different there isn't it? But hey, cloth pad can be use even in the next year and it is environmental friendly :)

Why I mention that both are environmental friendly? Makhuk kecil cute and menggunakan lebih kurang 7000 lampin pakai buang dalam masa 3 tahun tapi cloth diaper just maybe 80 keping. Disposable diapers is used for 2 hours tapi cloth diapers is used for 3 years, boleh anda yang bijaksana sini bayangkan ke mana agaknya beribu raban pampers tu pergi? Tidakkah ia akan kembali kepada alam sekitar? Same case as disposable menstrual pad, you will use 1000 pads in 3 years, but only 50 cloth pads and where it gonna end up to? YES environment. Cotton is the Most Natural material for you and your baby¹s skin and oh with no CHEMICAL at all. There is no need for gels or chemicals. Jangan risau if bocor or what so ever, dengan kebijaksanaan kurniaan Allah kepada makhluk manusia, lampin kain dah adavance sekarang, ada macam-macam corak dan satu diapers both fit dengan banyak saiz sebab ada butang laras. Jangan korang bayang macam lampin kain dolu-dolu tu, kena letak pin bagai, NO. I have started using both, but still dalam proses mengembang biakkan supaya lebih banyak umat cloth diapers and cloth pad ni di planet rumah I, hohoho. I selang selikan, sehari cloth diaper next day is disposable diaper for the beginning. Actually, cloth diapers ni ada jual kat banyak pasaraya but I am not sure about the quality.

Cloth diapers

Inilah yang dinamakan 2 in 1,  berjimat dan mesra alam, heheh. Selain itu, untuk kurangkan belanja dapur pula, rancanglah resepi anda untuk 3 hari then baru pergi pasar beli apa yang patut. Jangan beli sakan semua then tak terpakai pun, busuk je dan terbuang, kan ke membazir duit dan makanan namanya? Dan siapa yang suka membazir kawan siapa??? Hohoho tepuk dada tanya iman :) 

Inshaallah jumpa lagi, terima kasih sudi baca ^^

Sindrom sayang anak

Assalamualaykum..

Sindrom sayang anak? Sindrom ini biasanya akan menyerang umat manusia yang baharu bergelar ibu dan bapa, hohoho. Well, actually that is not my main point here. The title is actually combination of "Sayang anak timang-timangkan" dan "Shaken Baby Syndrome". So I combine jadi la Sindrom sayang anak., bijak kan? Jimat pun jimat, jimat space dan tenaga (APAKAH???). Ok back top the topic, Shaken Baby Syndrome atau nama glam nya SBS. As a new parents, especially at the very early days, the sounds of our baby's crying will freak us out, REALLY. Terutama baby yang vokal tinggi like my daughter, time dia tarik vokal semua orang memandang, jiran di tingkat bawah sekali pun boleh dengar, kucing terpinga-pinga memandang ke sana sini. Disebabkan itu, cepat-cepat je nak bagi dia tenang sampai kadang-kadang tergoncang bayi yang suci tak bersalah itu, when I recall those days I really regret it and I will cepat-cepat minta maaf kat my baby and kiss her bertubi-tubi tanda menyesal sebab kurang sabar masa tu. Bila jumpa artikel berkenaan SBS ni, rasa bersalah tu makin membuak-buak tak dapat bendung, huhu. Forgive me my Lord, forgive me my child, for being impatient  :(

So what is SBS actually?

Shaken baby syndrome is a severe form of child abuse caused by violently shaking an infant or child. Shaken baby syndrome can occur from as little as 5 seconds of shaking. Shaken baby injuries usually occur in children younger than 2 years old but may be seen in children up to the age of 5. When an infant or toddler is shaken, the brain bounces back and forth against the skull. This can cause bruising of the brain (cerebral contusion), swelling, pressure, and bleeding in the brain. The large veins along the outside of the brain may tear, leading to further bleeding, swelling, and increased pressure. This can easily cause permanent brain damage or death. Shaking an infant or small child may cause other injuries, such as damage to the neck, spine, and eyes.

Artikel daripada seorang doktor:

"SBS merupakan kecederaan otak bayi disebabkan goncangan atau pergerakan kepala yang kuat. Boleh berlaku dalam tempoh sesingkat 5 saat pergerakan yang kuat. Kecederaan yang serius boleh menyebabkan kecacatan otak yang lama, serius dan kekal pada bayi. Ianya berlaku apabila kepala bayi digoncang atau dihentak dengan objek walaupun objek lembut seperti bantal. Ada teori mengaitkan dengan pergerakan seperti menimang bayi, menaiki buaian serta memegang bayi ketika seseorang sedang marah atau bergaduh boleh menyebab berlakunya SBS. Sebab lain ialah penderaan bayi (child abuse) dan selalunya mempunyai kesan-kesan penderaan yang lain.

Perkara ini berlaku kerana kepala bayi mempunyai nisbah yang lebih besar berbanding badan mereka, leher yang lemah dan struktur otak yang masih belum matang serta lebih kandungan air berbanding orang dewasa.

Amalan menimang atau menggoncang sering dilakukan oleh penjaga terutama bila bayi tidak mahu berhenti menangis. Ada yang menimang bayi kerana untuk menenangkan bayi dan ada juga melakukannya ketika marah atau penat menjaga bayi.

Ini bukanlah kes SBS pertama yang saya rawat. Sebelum ini saya juga pernah merawat seorang bayi di wad kanak-kanak yang mempunyai kecederaan otak yang serius dikhuatiri berpunca daripada menaiki buaian

Maka, saya sangat berharap agar ibu bapa dan penjaga semua dapat mengambil serius dan peka tentang Baby Shaken Syndrome ini. Ianya bukanlah kes terpencil malah di Amerika Syarikat sebanyak 1500 kes dilaporkan setiap tahun. Mereka juga telah mengharamkan sebarang bentuk alat menggoncang bayi seperti buaian.."

So what is the PREVENTION of this syndrome?

  

>Do not shake your baby when you are angry or to play. 

>Do not hold your baby when you are angry. 

>If you can not calm your baby, leave your baby for a while in the crib or to others. 

>Ask for help from others.

>Cradle should be our last choice to make our baby sleep (Crying T_T)

Yang prevention last sekali tu agak sukar sekali coz my baby tidur siang dalam buai but not all the time :'( . I will try my best to minimize using the cradle, inshaallah. You all boleh tengok secara 3D tanpa perlu pakai cermin mata 3D, macam mana gejala SBS ni berlaku dalam badan bayi kita di youtube. Ngeri siot, sumpah tak goncang dah my baby even dia menangis on top of her lungs! Taubat!

When you've become a parent

Bismillah..Assalamualaykum..Hey, I'm back! :D

I'm having a long holiday huh?! Well, yes and I enjoy it, trust me :)

So what happened in back 2 months? Ahhaaa jeng3 *Drum rolls*

Taraaaaa....

Assalamualaykum..my name is Maryam al-haura' :)

Yes, my baby! :)

Alhamdulillah everything went well with His perfect plan, I couldn't say more. My baby is healthy and perfect, alhamdulillah. All experience I gained along the journey, all the struggles and pains, I believe will benefits me much not only in dunya but also in akhirah. So at the moment my mother left my home, the journey of parenting started. It is true that it is never easy to be a parent, the first time baby Haura' cried on top of her lungs, freak my hubby and me out. Phewww of course she stopped cried when she was tired and then fell asleep like nothing ever happened! Oh my Lord, really it was a priceless moment! And we laugh whenever we recall that moment, lol.The first time when it was only me and baby Haura' after my hubby left to his workplace, I remind myself to be positive, she's only a baby, her only way to communicate is crying so it is normal and I have to be calm, don't panic dude!

Now she's almost 2 months, she's getting smarter (She can stays put and watches we while I am praying beside her even when I pray with my hubby, she starts babbling, smile and laugh a bit) and with all my heart I would say, she's the most cute creature on earth, mashaallah, well at least on my sight ;). Well there's a lot of interesting thing change once you have a baby:

♥ You don't need a daily schedule anymore because your baby will fix your daily schedule. Well, it is depend on her to start the day in any time even at 3 am in the morning! As for me, I will automatically awake in every 2 hours to feed her.

♥ You will respect and love your own parents in a brand new way especially your mother after you have went through what she had. 

♥ If  the baby is sick, you will feel more severe than if you are sick. 

♥ You will appreciate ourselves, yes because you are now a parent to a child.

♥ You become more sensitive on whatever issues related with a baby like when you saw a news on child abuse, you can even cry :'(

♥ You will no longer feel disgust with our baby poo poo otherwise we are so happy! lol

♥ You will feel like an angel whenever you can make the baby stop crying

♥ You will always count your baby's new teeth 

♥ You will no longer eager to snap your picture, you will instead taking your baby's picture daily! This is also applies to your photos uploading activity where you will upload your baby's picture more than yours in fb :P 

♥ You would think that having more children is not a huge problem. 

♥ When you see there are other parents who were holding their baby that was crying, you will understand their situation. 

♥ You will cherish your bath time even it is in a short period!

♥ Finally, you start to say 'hello' to the neighbor after having a baby! 

♥ You will find out, the things that once you consider important are no longer important after you have a child. 

♥ You are aware that it is not difficult to love your children who at first you thought he was a stranger. 

♥ Every day is full of surprises!

Interesting isn't it? :D

I believe she will grows smarter and prettier than me (Of course, I'm getting old, no?) and most important is she becomes a piety servant of Allah like Maryam Ali Imran, amin. I aware that me first have to be a piety servant of Allah, inshaallah. Yes, it is a long journey but with Allah's helps inshaallah we can make it, plus both side cooperation of husband and wife. Alhamdulillah for He gave me a very supportive and cooperative plus handsome (enhem) husband. Baby Haura' is indeed the most precious gift for our first anniversary awww :)

Alhamdulillah for everything, thank you for all du'a from whoever I ever met or even never meet. Please keep me in your du'a :)

With  ♥

Zahra

Dad, you are my truly warrior!

She buried her face on the pillow while weeping arbitrarily. Her heart was ached and her soul revolted. She does not understand why her Dad always asked her to do something that she disliked. Just before she get off from home this evening to meet her boyfriend, Dad had told her to change her favorite dress to other clothing and he said that the dress was inappropriate and a bit tight, although for her, the clothes  are loose and it's beautiful too. She lied to her Dad, that she just wanted to meet her old friend, she had to lie as her Dad would never allowed her to meet a boy without a companion and now she won't go out with other than her best clothes. 

She's already eighteen but Dad never give her a chance to do whats she like to, he always would tell her whats best clothes she should wear, this and that. She just too upset and she cooped herself in the room for the whole night, she don't even took her dinner, though she heard her Dad's voice behind the door, mentioning that he cooked her favorite food and then she fell asleep with her heart full of hate.

She suddenly felt a heat and it's extremely hot. She is on the edge of the abyss, and from above a cliff she could see a  towering flames emerging and she could hear the creepy sounds, it's a goosebumps that she'd never felt before. She was very scared and crying out loudly when the ugly black creature with a very fierce face, tried to push her into the reverberations. She struggled to fight, but it turns out as the creature was too strong, her feet had slipped and she felt like it starting to blister. She screamed with a vengeance.

"God, help me!! Dad,  help me please!!!"

and her Dad suddenly appeared, the bright halo that surrounded him causing the creature to let her off. He hugged and took his daughter immediately away from the ravine. 

She was awake, the sweat soaking his body, she's shivering and is still crying. It's a middle of the night, the cold wind blowing into her room but it never could calm her down and she think to pray at the moment. As she passing by her dad's room, she could hear a soft crying sounds and she attaches her ears to the door. 

"Oh Allah, please guides my daughter to be a good slave of yours, safe her from the hellfire,I forgive her for everything she done, if she did mistakes, the one that should be punish in your fire is me as I am her father and You gave me a responsible to teach her about religion. I'm too weak Allah, please give me a strength to teach her with love. Oh Allah, give the best for her, protects her anywhere she goes and shower her with your mercy and kindness. Oh Allah..."

She can't bear to hear anymore, her eyes flooded with tears, she took wudhu' and perform her very first tahajud pray in her life. She began to realize, that his good fortune over the years is because of her dad's prayer. Through the dream that she had, Allah wants to tell her that everything her dad's did was intentionally to safe her from a tournament of hell. A sensation that flow in her veins, whispering, "Dad, you are my truly warrior, I will love you for my entire life".

"Fathers are wonderful people, too little understood and we do not sing their praises as often as we should. For, somehow,father seems to be the man who pays the bills, while Mother binds up little hurts and nurses all our ills and Father struggles daily to live up to "HIS IMAGE" as protector and provider and "hero or the scrimmage". And perhaps that is the reason we sometimes get the notion, that Fathers are not subject  to the thing we call emotion, but if you look inside Dad's heart, where no one else can see, you'll find he's sentimental and  as "soft" as he can be. But he's so busy every day In the grueling race of life, he leaves the sentimental stuff to his partner and his wife. Fathers are just WONDERFUL in a million different ways, and they merit loving compliments and accolade of praise, for the only  reason Dad aspires to fortune and success is to make the family proud of him and to bring them happiness and like OUR HEAVENLY FATHER, he's a guardian and a guide, someone that we can count on To be ALWAYS ON OUR SIDE."

P/S: Love and appreciate your father and thanks Allah for such a great person in our life! Alhamdulillah fi kulli hal..